|Saying||Self-understanding||Common sense||Main themes||Theoretical perspective|
|She complains mainly of headaches and a stiff neck. I compare this with my own experience with pain, which also began during puberty. I remember my mother’s history with pain and my grandmother’s as well. As far back as I know the women in my family have suffered from headaches. I have also been treated, treatment for headaches many, many times. The first time was when I was 11 years old. (018.0030)||My child is trapped in the “legacy” of our family history, it repeats itself. I think there is probably nothing to do about this.||
It seems to be a feeling of powerlessness and loneliness in life. A sense of lack of opportunities for pain relief.|
The mother organizes her everyday life from the perspective that she is the only caring and responsible adult.
|My child is just like me||
Significant degree of responsibility and high degree of loneliness seem to characterize the mothers’ thoughts and actions.|
These aspects both individually and through interaction, might impair QoL. They might underpin and reinforce each other.
|She grew up without a dad …. So, I was alone …. and I denied her [Contact with her dad, author’s note] for various reasons with alcohol. I didn’t trust him. I still don’t trust him. (812.0019)||I cannot trust the father of my child. I am anxious that my child might not be well or get hurt.||Parenting is a lonely project|
|… and suddenly it came out then what the problem was … She was actually sexually harassed badly in school. Moreover, it wasn’t just she that was harassed … and I’ve talked to school counsellors and everything at school. (812.0019)||I am the only person that really care about my child||I am responsible|
|I have chosen not to have a boyfriend; I can’t see any reason to … I’m not so stupid to believe that some guy would love my kids like I do. I’m not that dumb! (0018.0014)||I downgrade my own needs for the good of the child.||I downgrade my own needs|