|Sub-themes||Categories||Main coding from transcripts|
|Adult children living with parenting worries||Worries about children’s emotional health||
Worries about children developing mental illness.|
Hyper-vigilante to child’s emotional health.
Finding the children’s emotions difficult to understand.
|Parenting challenges||Finding communications with child challenging. Struggling to develop emotional connectivity with child.|
Self-doubt and questioning parenting – lacking confidence.|
Difficulties ensuring consistency with children.
Have to consciously think about parenting more than others.
|Lacking an internal parenting framework and support||
Lacking a parenting framework and role model.|
Lacking guidance in parenting role.
Fears of making the same mistakes as own parents.|
Using an opposite approach to parenting.
|Adult children seeking connectivity with their children and others||Wanting better and the best for the children||
Want success, happiness, community role for children.|
Wanting something different for children than own (adult children’s) experiences.
Wanting to be the best parent possible.
|Wanting love and connectivity with children||
Importance of being with family and children.|
Being involved with children’s daily lives and enjoying family time.
Want to give children so much love – being loving, respectful, open and developing trust.
|Wanting to protect or be protected by children||
Want to protect children.|
Not wanting children to go through the same as adult children.
|Wanting to provide space for children to grow||
Allow children to follow their desires – provide opportunities for them.|
Independence is key.
Actively developing resilience in children.